One of our readers, Hien, sent us a lovely note with this video.
The summary? You are more beautiful, more vibrant, more amazing than you think. Don’t sell yourself short.
UPDATE: This post just appeared on our radar, and there are some really good points in the post that we didn’t get a chance to dissect.
The whole premise of the post is that this Dove campaign is perpetuating a certain “standard” of beauty, and that physical beauty might be everything.
I know we’ve been told it thousands upon thousands of times before, but I hope you heard that, girls: your physical, superficial beauty is the most significant part of who you are, and the most important determining factor in your life. And now I want you to hear this: that is a lie.
Obviously, your beauty is so much more than just your looks. But despite the fact that women of color weren’t featured prominently in the video, I think one thing that Dove might be onto with this video is this idea of physical beauty. As much as I want to throw this line of thinking completely throw it out the window, I understand how physical beauty can and often times do affect the way we feel about ourselves inside.
Yes we should try to break out of that. Absolutely yes it is NOT the most significant part of who you we are, but I’d like to give this “experiment” a little benefit of the doubt.
If only women “saw” themselves the way that other people see them, not just physically… If we imagined that there is this constant aura and light oozing out of us, then maybe we can all start to project more positiveness into this world.
What you look like should not affect the choices that you make. It should certainly not affect the friends you make—the friends that wouldn’t want to be in relationship with you if you did not meet a certain physical standard are not the friends that you want to have. Go out for jobs that you want, that you’re passionate about. Don’t let how good looking you feel like you are affect the way way that you treat your children. And certainly do not make how well you feel you align with the strict and narrow “standard” that the beauty industry and media push be critical to your happiness, because you will always be miserable. You will always feel like you fall short, because those standards are designed to keep you constantly pressured into buying things like make up and diet food and moisturizer to reach an unattainable goal. Don’t let your happiness be dependent on something so fickle and cruel and trivial. You should feel beautiful, and Dove was right about one thing: you are more beautiful than you know. But please, please hear me: you are so, so much more than beautiful.
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